I was engrossed trying to decipher a convoluted document on my laptop when I heard two tiny feet stomp their way into my room.
Baby Zo: I am never talking to Zi ever again.
Mama: Oopsy Daisy ! and what would be her crime today?
Baby Zo: She hit me
Mama: and did you hit her back ?
Baby Zo: No, I didn’t, I pushed her and I am never speaking to her ever again.
Mama: Don’t you think that may be a tad extreme ?
Baby Zo: Whatever ! but I am never speaking to her ever again.
Mama: Baby Zo, have you ever seen your reflection in water ?
Baby Zo (with lips protruding in a pout): Yes
Mama: You know why you can see your reflection in a pot of water?
Baby Zo: No
Mama: Coz the water is still and calm. Have you ever tried to see your reflection in boiling water ?
Baby Zo: No
Mama: That’s coz you cannot. It isn’t possible. The water is angrily bubbling and so it isn’t possible for you to see clearly through it. Do you know that your mind is boiling right now
Baby Zo: No, it is not.
Mama: Yes, it is and so you cannot think clearly. I suggest, you wait for your mind to become still and calm and then you decide if you would want to talk to Zi or not.
Lets try this. Close your eyes, and breathe deeply.
Baby Zo: (Reluctantly following instructions)
Mama: Do it 3 times.
Baby Zo: (Carrying on obediently)
Mama: Do you feel better ?
Baby Zo: Yes, but I am never talking to her.
Mama: That means your mind is still not calm.
Meanwhile, the Doting Dad steps in.
Dad: Ok girls. Both of you, come here. Baby Zi put your hand on Baby Zo’s heart. Baby Zo put your hand on Baby Zi’s heart. Now lets take 10 deep breaths together, slowly and in a unison.
Mama: (watching both my lil ones lips curling into smiles slowly): Now, Baby Zo, would you like to reconsider your decision ?
Baby Zo (shyly admitting): Fine
So this technique generally works with kids as it allows them to feel connection through touch and also be present in the moment. This touch opens the Heart Chakra, and sets off the release of oxytocin in your body. Oxytocin is the love and bonding hormone. You will also automatically increase your energy and will start feeling more positive.